It's not entirely on you. Accusing you of mansplaining is not cool, she should've just said something like "i'm sharing this because I'm looking for emotional support, not solutions, so please stop trying to solve my problems when I'm just venting".

In a sense, how people react to having problems shared with them is a cultural difference, neither is right or wrong but they can be jarring and confusing when you're used to one culture but interact with a different one. But it's not fair to just assume the other culture is acting in bad faith

If you didn't realize the importance of privacy after the patriot act and seeing the continuation of right wing authoritarianism, it's definitely time to get on board asap. Get yourself and your community on signal instead of texts and tuta or proton instead of regular email, use a vpn (mullvad or proton are solid), and depending on what kinds of actions you may or may not be interested in, learn how to use tails os and tor (try to find a copy of the darknetmarket bible for a good intro)

Edit: simplex is a good alternative to signal too, and if you have a google pixel, grapheneos is solid. Next time you're getting a new phone, get a used pixel and install it. On your computer, there's a lot of telemetry and sketchy stuff windows does, either research and disable that or switch to linux if you can

You're just pondering pondering orbs. It's orb pondering all the way down

“When Trump won, my husband was so upset he wanted me out of our apartment. The rage was unexplainable — I mean honest rage. I could not understand this emotion in him and why anyone would let a political vote destroy or nearly destroy a marriage,” he said.

if you vote for someone who'd like to make your marriage illegal, it's gonna strain the marriage duuude

Honestly tho a dating site that's not incentivized to keep people on the dating site makes a lot of sense

Fuck animal agriculture. It's normalized animal abuse, and it needs to end.

Paying off porn stars by illegal methods in order to influence an election*

Yeah it's super easy (autistic or not) to think you're being very clear when you have the full idea in your head, but you're actually not. It's like if you're trying to describe a purple elephant and say "the thing that moves around and is purple and has a trunk". Those words clearly describe a purple elephant if you already have the concept at the forefront of your mind, but for somebody without a purple elephant in mind, you could just as well be describing a purple car or a guy from the purple equivalent of the blue man group carrying around a big chest of clothes or a purple tree that can move around.

/e/OS is android lol. Yes it's better than the version of android that ships with phones by default, but grapheneos is still way better than e/os (even though they're all android)

Yo control your router lol (freshtomato or openwrt or something might be good options)

The crispness of this photo for such an ancient screenshot is incredible

in a strange twist, the chess world already solved this one. Vibrating buttplug