[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 7 points 13 hours ago

Embarrassment suggests he has a sense of shame. He has already conducted a number of shameful acts already (taking gifts) without any sense he's embarrassed.

[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 59 points 1 day ago

There were multiple weddings that day. That was from a prior ceremony for bit players that weren't important to the story.

[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago

Putin is having some money troubles of his own right now. Banks in China are refusing to complete bank transactions with russia.

[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

"Hmm the recipe says to make 'Cashier soup' we need to add vegetable stock after we've put the cashier in the pot"

[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 20 points 2 days ago

It’s ugly af. Was that a project requirement or something? It looks like it has a fucking underbite lol.

It is, but its pure function over form. If you want the whole story on this here's a well done 13 minute youtube video: USPS Oshkosh NGDV Postal Van - Ugly by Design

Short version for the ugly:

  • drivers need to stand up at full height inside for ease of use
  • drivers, when seated, need to see very close to the ground what is in front of them
  • drivers are not all the same torso height. Men are usually taller than women so you need a really tall windshield for very tall seated drivers, and very sharp and short hood for very short drivers.

Its ugly, but is a very VERY functional design. I'd rather mail carriers are comfortable in their ride than feeling stylish.

[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago

The rate isn't too bad actually, but when your household is a larger consumer anyway and you're charging 2 EVs consumption gets up there. We have also switched to an induction stove, heat pump water heater, added a heat pump dryer, and just recently had our gas furnace ripped out and a cold climate heat pump put in for the HVAC.

With all of that the electricity usage the bill goes up, but we can wipe it out with solar and now we don't have natural gas bills or gasoline costs for transportation. The up front costs can be high with this approach, but the monthly bills are nearly non-existent.

[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

Verstappen, Newey, and Honda has had a good success rate over the last few years. Verstappen joining Aston would put these three together again.

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The rate around here is now down to $0.22/kWh. We were occasionally getting electricity bills around $400/month at worst, but we haven't had an electrical bill since April of this year with our solar panels on the roof now.

[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 5 points 3 days ago

"Please eat a 'Trump brand verification steak' to sign into your account"

[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 22 points 3 days ago

I’d like to know how close I was and in what ways I can become a more interesting candidate, but nobody is going to give me a realistic answer.

I can tell you from the employer side there is nothing to gain by answering this question asked by a candidate, and everything to lose which is why you the candidate almost never hear a response.

There are some legally protected reasons you cannot be turned down for a job. Its all the stuff you'd think of: race, religion, marital status, sex, age, etc. The likelihood you were turned down because of one of these illegal reasons is usually very low in the USA. I'm proud to say for the hiring efforts I've been a part of, these have never been considered criteria for disqualifying a candidate. Its always been for things like lack of knowledge/education, criminal history (example multi-DUI for a job that requires driving or conviction of embezzling when put in charge of company finances ), etc.

However, any documented reason a prospective employer gives back to a candidate becomes a liability. Will that candidate sue the company claiming that they weren't hired because they think the position required some not married, which would be a crime of the employer?

[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 25 points 4 days ago

This is a classic mistake men make. As a man, I've made this mistake many times in the past before I learned what was happening. She's not wrong. You're solving for the wrong problem.

At least three times a week, she tells me she felt bad that her coworkers didn’t have a lunch,

She was sharing her thoughts and her feelings with you. She was creating a moment where you were both looking through her eyes at a situation of sorrow. That was her goal. You felt that moment and empathized with it. Ideally, you'd even communicate to her verbally how sad it was. That was the complete thing she wanted from beginning to end.

However, you misinterpreted what she was saying and why.

so I adjusted my cooking so her coworkers would have some sort of lunch if they didn’t or couldn’t bring anything.

You felt the empathy, but then you designed and implemented a process to solve the problem. THAT WAS NOT HER GOAL. I assume you told her the leftovers for 4 were there for her to take, but that wasn't what she wanted. She never wanted to take leftovers for her coworkers. Bringing leftovers can cause all kinds of other social difficulties she may not want to deal with. She wanted to experience the moment with you about how bad it was he coworkers didn't have food, perhaps even gain understanding about their social and economic situation of her coworkers, but that was all, not "FIX THE PROBLEM".

Stop bitching about coworkers not having enough to eat if you’re not going to fucking help.

The anger you're feeling telling her to not talk about a problem unless she expects a solution is the same level of anger she will feel when she expects you to listen to a problem and not offer a solution and you don't honor that.

A way to approach this in the future when she talks about how sad she is for her co-workers is to ask her what she'd like the out come of the conversation:

"Would like like me to simply listen, or are you looking for a solution?"

If she says "listen", then you job is to sit there, listen to her story, experience the anger/sadness/frustration she did/does, and simply acknowledge it.

  • "Honey, I'm sorry. It shouldn't be that way"
  • "That really sucks. I hope it gets better for them"
  • "That must be hard for you so see that everyday"

There are piles of books on this, one of the most famous is "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus". If you have any desire to have a future where you spend that with a woman, you need to understand differences in how each process emotions. If you simply say "it has to be my way, and a solution is the outcome when a problem arises" you will alienate your mate putting distance between you and possibly lose her.

I know its hard. I know its uncomfortable and frustrating for you. I've been there myself. I know "it would be so much simpler if...", but it isn't. This is what it is and you have a responsibility to change your behavior here too. You know when they say "a marriage takes work"? THIS is some of the work they're talking about. You've punched your time card for your morning shift and are now on the clock. Get to work.

[-] partial_accumen@lemmy.world 44 points 4 days ago

Vyacheslav Volodin, the chairman of the State Duma, the lower house of parliament, and a close ally of President Vladimir Putin, said Moscow would be forced to use "more powerful and destructive weapons" against Ukraine if Kyiv started firing long-range Western missiles at Russia.

Hey Vyacheslav, what weapons besides nuclear (and maybe biological) weapons does russia have that it hasn't used against Ukraine already? Do you think if you use a nuclear weapon against Ukraine that that ends the war? Do you think the rest of the world will just say "welp, I guess russia used a nuke, better let them have Ukraine now". Not even close.

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So wholesome!

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Tom Smothers, half of the Smothers Brothers and the co-host of one of the most socially conscious and groundbreaking television shows in the history of the medium, has died at 86.

The National Comedy Center, on behalf of his family, said in a statement Wednesday that Smothers died Tuesday at home in Santa Rosa, California, following a cancer battle.

“I’m just devastated,” his brother and the duo’s other half, Dick Smothers, told The Associated Press in an interview Wednesday. “Every breath I’ve taken, my brother’s been around.”

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