What field do you work in?

Soon maybe not anymore

I just switched everything over to a European provider: cloud, email, office programs. I'm also seriously considering using Linux now

In what way does it look outdated?

I don't think the main message is not approaching women anywhere. I think the main message is actually making friends before making a move. Not just asking someone out.

I've had 2 relationships and am in a happt marriage going on 10 years, and each one started by being friendly and sharing interests, because then it's natural to go do something together sometime.

Don't overcomplicate it, just be friendly and make it natural to spend time together.

Your comparison between "European vs Dutch" and "American vs Irish-American" is fundamentally flawed.

Nationality vs ancestry are different concepts. Dutch is my current nationality, defined by citizenship, language, culture, and shared social experience. Being "Dutch-Norwegian" would mean I hold dual citizenship or were raised in both cultural contexts simultaneously. Most Americans claiming to be "Irish-American" have no citizenship, language fluency, or authentic cultural immersion in Ireland.

The cultural disconnect is stark. What Americans call "Italian-American culture" has diverged dramatically from actual Italian culture over generations. It's become a distinctly American phenomenon with superficial cultural markers rather than authentic representation. When Irish-Americans visit Ireland, locals often view them as simply American tourists because the cultural gap is so evident.

With each generation, the cultural connection weakens substantially. By the third or fourth generation, what remains is often reduced to stereotypical elements like celebrating St. Patrick's Day or eating pasta on Sundays. This selective cultural picking isn't equivalent to genuine cultural identity.

European identity framework differs fundamentally. In Europe, identity is primarily based on where you were born and raised, your language, and your lived experience – not distant ancestry.

Many Americans who claim hyphenated identities have minimal knowledge of their ancestral country's modern culture, politics, or social realities. They cling to outdated or stereotypical notions that no longer reflect the actual country.

Comparing a continental identity (European) to a national one (Dutch) is not the same as comparing a national identity (American) to a hyphenated ancestral one (Irish-American). The Netherlands exists within Europe; "Irish-American" does not represent a legitimate political or cultural subset of America in the same way.

In my experience, copilot is one of the weakest tools right now. I want to like it, as I have a license at my job, but it's really hit or miss. Perplexity hasn't steered me wrong yet!

I've had good experiences with perplexity as an AI tool that hallucinates a lot less. It's basically a search engine that them feeds the information into a model for interpretation, works pretty well!

Do elaborate, it's it something that would benefit all men?

This is another level, thanks for sharing!