So take everything I say as a sample size of 1. I am autistic and have CPTSD from childhood neglect.

Yeah it's true. But to me it's not a good thing. It's that your standards go to shit! I've said my whole life that parents don't seem happier with kids they seem so utterly broken that they are able to celebrate really basic things.

You become thankful for the small things because the big things are gone. You choose to love X because Y is not an option any more etc.

There are chemical processes that make you all lovey dovey for your kid for sure, but to be honest... Definitely not enough. I remember in the first year thinking how did we survive evolutionarily? I would def without a solid moral compass have left this thing in a cave and walked away so many times! 😂

In short, before I had kids I could do what I want, when I wanted, I had friends, I saw my family, I had more money, I could spend time on personal development, I could take a couple of hours to breathe and reset my nervous system if needed, etc. For years those things stop existing and they mostly will not be the same again for at least a decade or so... Even then I don't know. It's genuinely a horrific decision in so many ways.

To be honest I’m not entirely sure the whole "your mind clicks a different way" isn't just a trauma response 😅

Anyways, I know I’m an outlier. But it's hard for me to really believe folks that speak SO positively of it... I just don't see it in their lives, they also look like they have given up so much for so little.

Or a submarine.

The problem is, while you and I have a problem with that, billionaires don't.

That it isn't different when they are your own... I really don't like young children (like under 3/4 or so.) Thankfully I actually do like them as they age but fuck me are young children the absolute worst (for me).

This is interesting as I've not even heard of Floorp and alternatives have been such a hot topic the last month between manifest v3 and firefoxes updated terms fiasco.

Can I ask, what for you had you opt for floorp vs the more commonly mentioned alternatives like Librewolf, Waterfox, etc.?

I've been checking this site on and off from Europe for about a month. Can someone who knows more than me explain the expected timeline for what remains?

I feel like it jumped up into the mid 30%s after only a month or so and then stagnated for weeks.

Now it seems to have jumped again. But I guess I’m wondering at what sort of percentage does everything go to shit (not that it isn't already!). Are there points where there is a no turning back or civil war becomes inevitable, etc.? Or does it hit a certain percentage where it will jump to 100% overnight due to certain protections being removed.

I guess I’m struggling to wrap my head around what I’m seeing, what it looks like between 40% and 100% and how quickly this might happen?

Even a guide somewhere on the net that breaks it down would be great.

There is an Organic Maps ios app which I use to mostly good effect. Occasionally have to fall back to Google maps and then I make a note to update OSM with the details missing where possible later.

Thanks so much for the reply, I'll give it a download to play with it - I certainly am a big fan of simple!

Thanks for the reply. That makes sense to me, part of me balks at meeting in the middle with such extremes already in play especially given that even these numbers will still be seen as nigh poverty enforced by evil socialist to the ultra wealthy.

So zero critique but to me these numbers still seem insurmountably huge. I wonder what makes $10/100 million your cut off points?

I ask because it's hard for me to imagine how one individual can amass $100 million in wealth without theft from those actually producing value. But I’m also aware that somewhere along the way actual lines have to be drawn and don't necessarily have my own metric for where that should be.

Yes, SO much this! They are firstly more likely to go under the radar due to misconceptions of what ADHD looks like in individuals and then secondly, to add insult to injury, more likely to be dismissed/not believed when it does get put out there.

As a psychotherapist I've found myself working with quite a few people in the last 5yrs going through the process of questioning if they are neurodivergent after social media psychoeducation.

In my experience many professionals are woefully under trained in the area of both trauma and neurodivergence and both would be primary considerations if you friend is resonating with descriptions of experiences and symptoms of ADHD. It is very often overlooked and misdiagnosed or missed as a diagnosis. Additionally many Therapists are trained to stay in the clients frame of reference and would not suggest a diagnosis that would be the job of a psychiatrist (at least here in the UK).

I think this can be a really complicated field to navigate. The way we diagnose mental health divergence in the west is primarily using the ICD or DSM both very problematic for various reasons but most of all because they look at symptoms to diagnose. Generally when diagnosing a physical condition symptoms are key to bringing people into the doctors office but you wouldn't want chemo because you had trouble breathing... You'd want some further tests to identify if it was lung cancer or a broken rib. Hell even some good additional questioning can drill down to this. Now in saying that a good mental health professional will do this, but many don't - especially somewhere like America.

The reason this is such an issue is many underlying conditions can present as ADHD - and visa versa. Your friend could have complex or chronic trauma, or any number of personality disorders for example. On the flip side I've seen people with probable ADHD be turned away from medical help because psychiatrists have (in my opinion) wrongly presumed it's trauma.

So to me the thing I tend to focus on more than anything is how does this stuff show up in people's lives and how can they alieviate the pain. For many seeking a diagnosis and getting medical help will be worth trying. For many other just having a community that struggles with similar issues and supports each other with tools and techniques that help is enough. Whatever it looks like for your friend I'd recommend you ask her what supporting her would look like from her perspective and do your best to be there.

To be clear I don't think you did anything "wrong", we all react from our own frame of reference and yours was different then than it is now as you are considering other angles. But I think you are asking the right question and sound like a good friend.

On the topic of these psycho education social media platforms - ultimately, I’m more thankful for the increased awareness and access to tools and techniques that help people than for any false self-diagnosis that undoubtably occurs because of it.