he tried to change my point from "it's stressful to try and act all invincible tough guy all the time" into some juvenile disparaging insult about all men being 'snowflakes'

it's a common thing for people to get offended by a comment and then try to attack some point that was never stated in the comment. so common that even saying "strawman" anymore is almost a cliche

as a man, i can tell you it is possible to re-examine those things that cause you to get upset--and when you take the time to do it, you'll realize that 99% of the things men get butthurt about a) don't matter in the slightest; and b) aren't going to be changed by anyone's huffing and puffing about it, but will more likely just get worse