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Having a really bad day and just wanted to post.
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Yeah, I’ve been talking to a therapist for a while now, but am realizing that I have misrepresented/mischaracterized myself and my issues a bit. I need to find a new one and start over with the real issues being the target.
I’ve realized that part of my lying to myself is not allowing me to be completely open and honest with my therapist. That has lead to them thinking I am making great strides, when I’m really not. They praise my progress and I take those affirmations and go about my life still broken and still negatively affecting my loved ones with the same old bullshit I always have.
It’s a cycle that needs to end, otherwise it will be the end of my relationship… My partner doesn’t deserve this and she has all but told me so… When my issues are affecting my partner to the point of resenting me, it’s time to fucking stop and do something differently.
now i'm starting to wonder if you are me from another dimension because i done this same thing too.
therapists are sometimes experienced enough to expect you to deceive yourself as much as you might deceive them; coming clean might be the something different you're looking for.
also: therapists are human beings too, if their training isn't sufficient to help them separate the real version of you (after you come clean) from the fake version of you from before, then they will find someone who can help and it will be with someone who is better at detecting self deception to help you.
if you still need to find another therapist, they're also trained for that as well. you can ask them for a referral and their training will enable it after they're satisfied that you're not doing it for a bad reason. admitting that you haven't been completely candid is valid reason and they will accept it if they're a good therapist; they're not there to judge you.
Hahaha, I swear I’m not! But yeah, it makes a lot of sense that this behavior isn’t just me. Makes me feel a bit better about my chances of fixing this too.
Thanks for the helpful response, this is my first therapy experience and I feel weird about breaking up with them, but their job is to support me and give me perspective, even if that perspective is agreeing that I need something/someone new.