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[-] teslasaur@lemmy.world 4 points 22 hours ago

Then give examples of what is valid.

Otherwise both problems persist. Misunderstanding by normals and undiagnosed ADHD-affected missing a tool.

I have no idea how to deal with someone that has adhd. I just know that they can't process time the same way other people can.

[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 points 21 hours ago

What is valid is mind your business. If you meet someone in a wheelchair, do you start recommending surgical treatments or physical therapy exercises? ADHD is a medical condition, and there is no cure-all treatment or technique that will make the problem go away. You deal with someone who has ADHD with understanding and empathy. If their condition affects you, especially in a negative way (they frequently forget plans, or they are late and you find yourself waiting) then you should honestly communicate those issues. But it's not your problem to fix. Some problems can't be fixed. You're entitled to your happiness, but unless you're their doctor, you don't need to help them come up with a solution.

Helping them get professional help from a doctor or therapist can be very helpful though. Also ask what you can do to support them.

[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago

Sure, if you're close like that. Support and empathy are great.

[-] teslasaur@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago

What a non-answer. I have a colleague with adhd that lost a customer because he couldn't finish a job in time. Quite literally my business.

How do i help so it doesn't happen again? From all i hear its a treatable issue.

[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 0 points 9 hours ago

What was your single cure-all suggestion to your colleague that fixed him?

You help by talking with them to uncover the root of the problem and working with them to avoid it in the future. There isn't going to be a simple fix that guarantees it won't happen again. "Just install an app" isn't treatment.

[-] teslasaur@lemmy.world 1 points 7 hours ago

It's like you're not reading what i'm saying on purpose.

So perpetual liability regardless of what we do? Is that the advice you give? Saying "talk to them" is as vague a response as the advice listed from the first comment i responded to.

[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago* (last edited 6 hours ago)

I'm not sure if that's irony or projection.

Start over from the top and try reading the whole thing again. But this time, just try to comprehend what I was saying.

[-] teslasaur@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago
[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

Nothing you said didn't make sense. You're just missing the point. Which more or less was my point, so thanks for serving as an example.

[-] easily3667@lemmus.org 1 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

It sounds like the implied sequence from your original post was in fact:

  1. You privately had a concern
  2. You mentioned it to noone and it had no impacts on anyone else
  3. A stranger came up and told you to just do X

Did I get that right? That's what it sounds like from the mind your own business angle.

[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 points 9 hours ago

Start with the meme.

You had a concern and provided advice.

Your advice followed the format I referenced: "Just (do something obvious that seems simple, and would be if you don't have ADHD)"

You are frustrated because your advice was ignored.

[-] easily3667@lemmus.org 0 points 4 hours ago

Oh...In this scenario the advice was solicited, so where does mind your own business come in?

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