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[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 57 points 1 day ago

Any advice that starts with "just..." is automatically invalid.

... Make a list and do one at a time.
... Set a reminder.
... Install some time-tracking productivity software on your phone or computer.
... Go for a walk and clear your head.
... Keep a jug of water nearby.

[-] teslasaur@lemmy.world 4 points 19 hours ago

Then give examples of what is valid.

Otherwise both problems persist. Misunderstanding by normals and undiagnosed ADHD-affected missing a tool.

I have no idea how to deal with someone that has adhd. I just know that they can't process time the same way other people can.

[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 points 18 hours ago

What is valid is mind your business. If you meet someone in a wheelchair, do you start recommending surgical treatments or physical therapy exercises? ADHD is a medical condition, and there is no cure-all treatment or technique that will make the problem go away. You deal with someone who has ADHD with understanding and empathy. If their condition affects you, especially in a negative way (they frequently forget plans, or they are late and you find yourself waiting) then you should honestly communicate those issues. But it's not your problem to fix. Some problems can't be fixed. You're entitled to your happiness, but unless you're their doctor, you don't need to help them come up with a solution.

[-] easily3667@lemmus.org 1 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

It sounds like the implied sequence from your original post was in fact:

  1. You privately had a concern
  2. You mentioned it to noone and it had no impacts on anyone else
  3. A stranger came up and told you to just do X

Did I get that right? That's what it sounds like from the mind your own business angle.

[-] themeatbridge@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago

Start with the meme.

You had a concern and provided advice.

Your advice followed the format I referenced: "Just (do something obvious that seems simple, and would be if you don't have ADHD)"

You are frustrated because your advice was ignored.

[-] easily3667@lemmus.org 1 points 57 minutes ago

Oh...In this scenario the advice was solicited, so where does mind your own business come in?

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