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How can people so mean? (lemmy.world)
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I just entered a text message chat from the group of students of my course, and after talking a there over some days with a sophomore (most of the chat was just me interacting with someone else) someone replied after some time "wow, the freshmen are really getting acquainted, writing shit and what else". That was so out pocket, closed the app and now I am ranting here, is this still kind of behavior normal in your uni/country? Its so bizarre, the guy was just sophomore. EDIT: thanks everyone for the replies, I appreciate them, I think there's some grow on my part to be done, because this seems to be way more common than I think. Welp, kinda of a bummer anyway.

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[-] ulterno@programming.dev 0 points 3 months ago

I have muted workgroups for sending "good morning" and "happy birthday" messages. Then given them the reason, when they asked why I am slower to respond on WhatsApp than on e-mail.

If I join a work related group, I expect work related chat. I don't enter social groups.

Reading down, I see OP was in a social group.

In that case, that's just their (the sophomores') way of social interaction.
Don't expect them to be better face-to-face. Remember TV programs depicting bullying? That happens IRL with the same (and sometimes much higher) intensity. We are much luckier now, that we can just avoid them on the internet.

Let's just say you now know one more person you don't want to contact much. There is no lack of potential friends in the world.

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