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this post was submitted on 04 Mar 2025
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Don't ask lemmy for advice. Lemmy cares about their own ideology and nothing else.
You came in here, saw all the intelligent, reasonable conversations below and still posted this ignorant comment? The thread is full of insightful comments, not ideologies.
Suggesting someone reevaluate their friendship with a person who is causing feelings of discomfort and anger is an ideology now?
Well yes! You stupid leftists don't have the right to live a comfortable life, free from criticism and accountability like us right-wingers. We're the ones who are right, it's right there in the name, "right-wing". As such, anyone that might cause us discomfort, such as breaking ties or criticizing the ones who we support, is espousing a disgusting, ignorant, liberal ideology.
(I hope it's obvious that I'm being sarcastic)
I see more comments in this thread warning that everyone here is going to say this than I see comments actually saying it.
Where should I go?
no i don't, therefore you lie. why would "we" listen to a liar?
This is the most true statement in this whole thread and the best advice here. Don't ask Lemmy.
Where should I go?
To your friend and other mutual friends and talk about it.
Speak to someone who knows your context. Someone preferably with some experience to give some perspective. Try some introspection. Read things written by people wiser than Lemmings.
I personally love podcasts. I'll always be able to recommend from there:
You Are Not So Smart: 306 - I Never Thought of it That Way - Mónica Guzmán (rebroadcast). Episode webpage and Media file
I wouldn't drop someone with such a long history and lots of positive features so quickly from my life. My parents can be racist. My family can be judgemental. My friends can be intolerant. A single aspect doesn't define the whole of someone. If you go having deep conversations with people you know, you'll quickly find some aspect in everybody that you deeply dislike.
If a black man can make friends with the most racist KKK members, and actually get them to change their minds through conversation, then there's hope for anyone.
Even if you want to break off the friendship, you don't have to do it today. The thought of that is obviously causing a lot of pain. See how things play out. Giving things time is almost always a good idea.