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this post was submitted on 31 Mar 2025
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This is a realistic mindset
People being nice to you only if you provide a benefit to them is certainly not something I've experienced in general. Sounds like this person knows lots of assholes.
It does not always have to be obvious to you as to what their benefit in you actually is. Doesn't mean they won't see one in you. Sometimes it's very abstract not clearly superficial. You will notice if you somehow loose that benefit. And yes, met many assholes. Almost exclusively. Hence the point. But I'm very picky with people.
I've also almost met exclusively assholes, it happens
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