How does it feel to be you, @blandfordforever?

Try to explain it to a stranger who is not like you at all. Someone who has lived a different life.

It's not easy. That's because words are a poor substitute for empathy. If you really want to understand someone, you need to actually put in the cognitive effort to imagine how it feels to be them. Put yourself in their shoes. If you can't understand why it's different for a woman than for a man, it's because you've never put in any effort to imagine how it feels to be a woman.

Our words are not going to do that for you

I could sit here and list all the things that men do to women. Or I could say, "living in a sexist society as a woman is dehumanizing, much like living in a racist society as a racial minority is dehumanizing, and when a man or a white person gloats at you and acts superior, like you're nothing, like you're a piece of dirt, that gets under your skin in a way that the reverse wouldn't, because of the context, because the society that you live in and the things you have experienced."

But if you don't put in any effort to actually imagine the reality of what I'm saying, those are just words.

It's not a debate, we're not going to logic our way to an answer here. This is an exercise in empathy. You either put in the cognitive effort to actually imagine what it's like, to actually put yourself in someone else's shoes, or we're describing color to the blind.