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How do alone people find each other online?
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Where are you going to meet people IRL? What are you, 12? IRL doesn't have any groups that do anything remotely interesting, and it's expensive asf to travel and those groups are nigh-undiscoverable. And don't harass random strangers, you're not gonna make many friends like that, unless you mean in prison.
Meetup.com has a lot outdoors groups for camping, hiking, outdoors skills, etc. Local outdoor climbing groups are also popular places to meet people, as well as climbing gyms, especially if you meet another solo autobelayer that needs a toprope pal. Your municipal community centers usually host things like dodge ball and other events. Your city is almost guaranteed to have one or two major cycling groups, which offer everything from queer history rides (gentle, 3mi rides) to 200mi long weekend rides.
There's also singles adventures groups (a paid service) that do everything from high ropes courses to boat excursions to ballroom dancing nights.
If you're a furry, telegram has a lot of groups for local skiing/mountain biking/gardening/rock climbing/cons/parties. Usually municipal events chats too.
Yeah I guess if you're into this weird stuff or you're a furry, but again, none of those are IRL, and that's what's being debated, since the guy I'm replying to specifically said "IRL" as opposed to OP asking how to meet people online. Please learn to read.
These are all outside, IRL. All of the things I just mentioned are where the schedules are posted...
They're not.
They are literally on a website meetup.com... you're finding people ONLINE to then meet IRL. It's not the same as meeting people IRL, same as how online dating is still online dating even though you meet the person IRL, because you met them online on the dating apps or whatever.
Are you a sign of things to come with people using chatbots instead of thinking?
Brother I'm a young adult, I'll give you some suggestions. Basically any sport, hobby, interest you have you can meet people. I hope this helps you, maybe I'll see you out there.
Sports
Sporty-ish
Outdoorsy stuff
More Expensive Hobbies
idk how to classify this
Not physical stuff
Volunteering
Staying at home trying to find people
I saved your comment because some of these are now on my todo list and some of them I've done recently. I'm also trying to get out more after 2-3 years of being otherwise occupied. I actually went skateboarding again for the first time in a decade or so. A buddy invited me and I even carved the bowl a little. I'm much more risk adverse now though.
Probably wouldn't try to meet any women in these scenarios though, unless you're a grizzly bear of course.
Also
(Had to make the joke lmao sorry)
One of my friends met his wife at a school hiking club.
+1 for hiking groups/clubs. It usually consists of lonely people who spend too much time inside, I made some friends that way.
Obviously, don't suggest a hike to the deep forest with convenient lack of phone service and witnesses as a first date :)
it really helps to live in a city i think. run/cycling, ski meetups are where is at for me