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submitted 21 hours ago by nn__00@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Hello. So last week I went to a school reunion for the 20th anniversary of my hometown school. I'm not the kind of person who enjoy this kind of social events, but for this time I made an exception. My old friend from that time asked me to go and I thought I would be funny (spoiler alert: it wasn't funny). After the event and speeches, all my classmates and I went to a restaurant. I sat in front of a girl that I had a bit of a crush on when I was a kid. During the dinner I was mostly in silence, they were talking about gossips, old memories, relationships, comparisons... At some point she talked about a boyfriend she had. She said that she cheated on him like 10 or 20 times, she didn't know the exact number. The thing is... She was laughing about it, and so the others. "I told him I cheated on him, I don't know how many times.." She said, like nothing happened. My ex girlfriend told me that she also cheated on his fiancée some time before the wedding. She always said that infidelities are always there, like it is normal... But is it? I've been thinking about it for some time now, because I know some other cases. But I don't understand... There is no sense of morality ot loyalty or empathy?

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[-] Gismonda@lemmy.world 80 points 21 hours ago

Infidelity is somewhat common but I would say it’s not “normal” at all to openly discuss and laugh about it at dinner with a bunch of people that you haven’t seen for years.

Seriously- wtf is wrong with these people? That one person sounds especially horrible.

Also - don’t go to any more reunions. I’ve managed to avoid 40 years of that shit and I like to believe that I’m happier for it!

[-] Aceticon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

The only thing I get from meeting again people I haven't seen for decades is to, using the abilities I've been acquiring with time and life experience to read other people beyond the superficial, find out that ~~most~~ many haven't really mature much from the people I knew and at times how much I misjudged them back in the old days when I was very naive and ran around pretty lost.

The "I'm better than that" feeling would be highly satisfying if I was a different kind of person, but it's actually just sad that some people turn out to either having always been less than I made them up to be in my mind or failed to actually turn into well balanced mature adults.

The other possibility is that it's all in my mind and I'm just deceiving myself, as having become more more self-deluded when it comes to others with time looks exactly the same from the inside as having become a little wiser in interpreting others.

[-] Zagam@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 20 hours ago

I went to my 10 year to make sure I was right. I was. I haven't gone to any others and don't even get asked.

[-] nn__00@lemm.ee 11 points 20 hours ago

Yes, Right? It was too much to talk about it. Definitely that was my first and last reunion

this post was submitted on 18 May 2025
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