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There is one more week left of May to finish the month strong.
still, somehow, miraculously, i have not picked up the bottle this week. idk how much further i can go with this
still losing weight, i think. hovering at about 194-195 right now, still want to drop another 5 before cycling back up
just trying to get some of my precious few spoons back
The spoons thing has been a really good way for me to understand my energy recently, but I usually think in terms of "actions", like in DND or something. Depression and ADHD made college damn near impossible, and I felt like if I could get one thing a day that used an action - studying, attending classes, tidying my room etc - then I was having a good day. It was very rare that I could do more than one in a day. My healthy and neurotypical housemates could take dozens of actions in a day, and I could barely take one.
Now I'm out of college, and I've noticed how many more actions I can take. Walking my dog doesn't feel like an action, and neither does making food, so I can do those every day without getting tired. I've been able to write some of my fantasy novel roughly every other day, and I've been socialising a lot. I also am less satisfied just playing video games and watching crap on my laptop. I feel a real drive to be productive, instead of feeling guilty about being unproductive when I could be studying.
And congrats on the weight loss, that's awesome! I'm trying to lose weight at the moment, do you have any advice? Especially around avoiding snacks
yeah, I've just been completely and utterly devoid of spoons recently. Big mood on not really feeling satisfied with video games but that's been less me wanting to be productive and me just not feeling the same playing video games. Last night I just killed a bunch of time staring at my screen because I was out of spoons but video games felt dreadfully boring to me
as for the weight loss? Intermittent fasting. I pretty reflexively dismiss anything that feels like a fad diet but it fuckin works, I don't know what else to tell you. I did it by just not eating anything after 1 PM on days that I work, because that's when I start working, and it made it easier to not eat due to there being no easily available food for me to just much on, unlike home, but idk how you would best put that into your schedule