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Hello comrades and welcome to the fourth improvement megathread of May! bonfire There is one more week left of May to finish the month strong.


Some discussion ideas:

  • How was your week?
  • Do you have any plans for next week?
  • Do you have some streaks or sober days to share?
  • Do you have some useful resources or information that you would like to share?

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[-] moonlake@hexbear.net 7 points 1 month ago
[-] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

Stickied. Some good news, I'm 24 hours nicotine free.

[-] moonlake@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago

This week I continued my streaks of running on 3 days and meditating on 5 days. Running is getting easier and I'm looking forward to my running days (Mon, Wed and Fri). I managed to lose 1 kilogram in the past 3 weeks. The goal for next week is to continue the streaks solidarity

[-] Mog_Pharou@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago

I got a sewing machine and I'm gonna learn how to alter clothes and level up my thrifting game. Hyped. Maybe even make a plushy.

[-] Wmill@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Got the three day week that I'm enjoying, tomorrow gonna do some biking at home maybe hop on my fasting for the day since I been neglecting that.

Meal prepping for the week looks like tofu patties again though gonna add more veggies to them. They were a god send this week when I didn't have much time to cook before my training. As for the training it's been going well. I'm not gonna lie and say I'm a leader or anything cool like that, I'm learning what I need and staying curious.

My free time has been limited greatly, played a bit of kiwami 2 today but I really think these coming weeks I'll have less and less time for myself. I don't mind it too much once my training is done I should be on the path of having a career which I'm looking forward to. Finding a job been hard enough but with these skills I'll pick up maybe a recommendation or two I'll finally start my life fully as an adult and not feel so large-adult-son

[-] DragonBallZinn@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

Genuine question. How does one build a work ethic?

I criticize the bourgeoisie and fascists for being spoiled libertines, yet am I really that much better? Sometimes I think I am fitting the stereotype of the lazy leftist all too perfectly. I find excuses to never try “why bother, it’s too competitive?” “Employers will never hire again” “you’ll grow bored of it” “it’s a waste of money” just to name four.

What do I do to just…have more energy and to actually have the drive to stick through things and not make excuses?

[-] moonlake@hexbear.net 1 points 1 month ago

In general, I think that drive/motivation is something that can't be manufactured, you either have it or you don't. But the good news is that you don't need drive to achieve anything, you just need some discipline, and that is within your control, as opposed to drive. Can you give an example of what you would like to achieve with drive?

[-] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

Lets give it up for day three sober from nicotine! The only bit of it I've had in my system is nrt gum and lozenges so I really don't count that as cheating. To help with the cravings I've been using mullein infused vapes off amazon. They last two days and are getting me over the hump of cravings. So yeah there's that.

[-] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

still, somehow, miraculously, i have not picked up the bottle this week. idk how much further i can go with this

still losing weight, i think. hovering at about 194-195 right now, still want to drop another 5 before cycling back up

just trying to get some of my precious few spoons back

[-] Moss@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

The spoons thing has been a really good way for me to understand my energy recently, but I usually think in terms of "actions", like in DND or something. Depression and ADHD made college damn near impossible, and I felt like if I could get one thing a day that used an action - studying, attending classes, tidying my room etc - then I was having a good day. It was very rare that I could do more than one in a day. My healthy and neurotypical housemates could take dozens of actions in a day, and I could barely take one.

Now I'm out of college, and I've noticed how many more actions I can take. Walking my dog doesn't feel like an action, and neither does making food, so I can do those every day without getting tired. I've been able to write some of my fantasy novel roughly every other day, and I've been socialising a lot. I also am less satisfied just playing video games and watching crap on my laptop. I feel a real drive to be productive, instead of feeling guilty about being unproductive when I could be studying.

And congrats on the weight loss, that's awesome! I'm trying to lose weight at the moment, do you have any advice? Especially around avoiding snacks

[-] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago

yeah, I've just been completely and utterly devoid of spoons recently. Big mood on not really feeling satisfied with video games but that's been less me wanting to be productive and me just not feeling the same playing video games. Last night I just killed a bunch of time staring at my screen because I was out of spoons but video games felt dreadfully boring to me

as for the weight loss? Intermittent fasting. I pretty reflexively dismiss anything that feels like a fad diet but it fuckin works, I don't know what else to tell you. I did it by just not eating anything after 1 PM on days that I work, because that's when I start working, and it made it easier to not eat due to there being no easily available food for me to just much on, unlike home, but idk how you would best put that into your schedule

[-] Moss@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

Well the main thing that happened this week is that I've been free of weed for 8 days. I've noticed stronger cravings than ever, but I'm not even able to get high living with my parents which helps, and it would just be inconvenient. The next time I'll be able to get high is next Wednesday, but I'd like to just not. I'd prefer to only be high in a social setting instead of just getting high to cure boredom.

In other food news, I asked to get my old summer job back working in a hotel and my old boss said yes. Now here's hoping that she'll let me work in the kitchen and not the bar, because I fucking hate dealing with customers

[-] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

an entire one pound off from my goal weight of 190 lbs and i might have to stop here just shy of the finish line. in addition to losing weight this fast being, well, questionable for my health, I also have dropped in my pants size enough to where I think I'm a size 12 now and wow are my pants real fuckin loose feeling on me now

[-] sictransitgloria@hexbear.net 1 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)
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