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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by Mastersmacks@reddthat.com to c/nostupidquestions@lemmy.world

I've got no problem with them, but these are obviously kids who grew up in a different age than me, and it shows, I know what could seem a joke to me could come off different to them. Especially this being In the trades and the type of jokes we make here. I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, we're all trying to just get through the day after all

Edit: I have learned, they used to be female, transitioned to male. (So trans-masc? I'm probably messing that up) Lesbian, and non-binary, thankfully they brought it up which was very helpful as I wasn't sure if it was appropriate to ask

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[-] bizarroland@fedia.io 58 points 2 months ago

Probably wouldn't be a bad idea to do something along the lines of stating upfront that "if anyone in the company does anything to offend you, please report it to the appropriate channels. You'll have our full support. We're here to get work done, not to make people feel bad"

You're not likely going to say by accident something they haven't heard before, or to offend them in a new and novel way, But establishing and occasionally reinforcing the fact that they don't have to tolerate it, that putting up with abuse is not part of their job, and that they have the boss's backing at the same level of the non-LGBTQ employees should they find themselves being abused or offended, would probably go a decent way in minimizing the risk of something actually bad happening.

[-] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 55 points 2 months ago

"... and if I accidentally say or do something offensive, tell me and I'll try to learn better."

[-] Witchfire@lemmy.world 7 points 2 months ago

This whole thread is very good

[-] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 16 points 2 months ago

please report it to the appropriate channels

Telling them that you personally will be there for them is really the only guarantee you can make without blindly relying on third parties to act with compassion. So telling them to come to you so that you can then together go through the rest of the process is imo the better idea. They can always choose to just ignore you, but making them go to some shitty HR office by themselves also sucks.

[-] Fleur_@aussie.zone 12 points 2 months ago

Well maybe only say this if it's true

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 11 points 2 months ago

You’re not likely going to say by accident something they haven’t heard before, or to offend them in a new and novel way

Not OP, but you underestimate my foot in mouth capacity.

20 years ago, my sister was dating a jock. Real body builder type. Probably a bigger musclehead than most pro-wrestlers.

What I was trying to convay is that we should make a superhero costume for him to wear, and make a comic book out of it.

What was percieved instead is that he should run around town and suck everybodys nuts in his mouth for their approval.

I DARE you to try to connect how that came out so wrongly worded.

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