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Why incels take the “Blackpill”—and why we should care
(arstechnica.com)
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I'm asexual. Can't relate, I guess.
EDIT: Wait, that's even shittier!! People unable or have difficulty reproducing are worth less to society?? I may be a bit naïve, but I don't believe that's a majority of society believes something like that. That's disgusting.
The comment was about self worth not societal worth. Being asexual shouldn't matter with that argument because you wouldn't feel the same sexual drive; your self worth isn't impacted.
Self-worth can be a result of societal expectations. Your parents badgering you about how you should "go get married and have a family" to show how "successful" you are as a person is very much a thing. It can greatly impact a person.
The only reason a person would feel bad is because society is pushing the narrative that they should feel bad if they aren't having sex with someone.
Sure true, but you can't ignore that humans have millions of years of evolution that have honed our physiological and social behavior to act a certain way. Just because it's not rational doesn't mean you can flip a switch and shrug it off.
For example, peer pressure in teens is more than a normal learned behavior. The need to conform to an in-group that (historically) will be your lifelong community is immense. The pain of exclusion and embarrassment is amplified, closer to actual physical pain, compared to what an adult/child might feel in the same situation.
...is because reproduction is a core part of animal evolution. An asexual person saying that core discomfort is invalid is like a person who can't feel physical pain rolling their eyes at touching a hot stove.
I'm not saying it's invalid, I'm just saying that I personally don't believe that it's the true core of the issue!
It's way more than just "Men mad because monke brain want sex mad because no sex".
Dunno what to tell you, but your second sentence is just wrong. It is mainly "men mad because monke brain want sex".
You only think it's not because like you said, you can't relate to most people since you're asexual.