When did you realize your toxic loved one’s behavior wasn’t normal? (lemmy.ml)

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My ex would always yell at me for pointless stuff and make me cry in front of his friends. They didn’t even like him, they just tolerated him.

My sister’s friend would blame my sister for stupid things and try to say it’s my sister’s fault, not hers. She would yell at her too and try to pass it off as a joke.

(We are very much healing now 🫂 Not perfect, but healing)

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[-] ICastFist@programming.dev 1 points 2 weeks ago

I only realized after breaking up. The first girl loved to talk me down, saying some of the stuff I liked was "just a phase". The second was super manipulative, to the point I often wondered if I should start writing stuff down.

[-] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 1 points 2 weeks ago

That’s the worst when a partner can make you doubt yourself

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