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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3347155

and what would be the point of lying?

I applied to 2 positions and got one. On both counts I shadowed for a day and was sincere.

Job 1 offered me a position I took.

Why I think the second job rejected me: I was assigned to 2 coworkers who started prying inquisitively about my job experience and expectations. I told them I don't want to go back home with back or leg pain or feeling broken, I don't mind doing my pause after 7 hours of working and not 4 but I actually NEED my pause, one every day, I also told them I don't live to work but the other way round (this is nursing).

Apparently they told management all this because during my interview with the c suite they mentioned what other coworkers think about me.

I still believe if you need a job, please do lie because you need the money. I was sincere this time because a union member told me to clearly state what you want in the beginning, so there are no uncomfortable situations afterwards.

I'm also a terrible actor, so maybe this was for the better?

This makes me value authenticity even more because one of those suites, a woman, used the strategy of faking being close to you (smiles, modulating her voice...) so you believe she actually cares about you so you let your guard down.

even though I got the other job it still stings because I was rejected for being authentic. Am I wrong?

So, in the future, do I keep being authentic or do I feed management BS? Feeding them BS always worked in the past.

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[-] BCsven@lemmy.ca 5 points 12 hours ago

Its a fine line of being authentic but also managing other people's attitudes, and also ensuring other peoples assumptions don't become their reality.

My wife was superskilled at deflecting at work. Shed be 10 years at a place and the staff knew nothing about her besides her age and that she had kids. It did cause some coworkers to form a clique and try to cause trouble, because for some reason people like being nosy.

I am very honest to the point that some people don't like my answers, so there sometimes has to be some manipulation of the answer so things stay pleasant.

As for perception: I worked at a place where I would show up before shift to get settled grab a coffee etc, and sometimes leave after shift was done while checking out production on my way out. This meant my punch in and out times didn't match my entered hours per project.
Our office staff didn't know how to reconcile it so in their software just typed my punch in and out exactly at shift start/end. At some point somebody made a report of who was on time or late etc. My name came up as not being prepared, since my punch in times looked like I'm entering the building at shift start. Had I increased my project billing hours, or been less prepared for work, I would have had a better perceived job outlook. LOL

As for actual lying, with HR and AI HR hiring, its about getting in front of a person so they can actually find out your skills. A little sweetening to get to the person that actually understands what you do is fine, otherwise their systems knockout the best candidates.

When we hire, its not about if the person knows the software or job requirements, its have they shown they can learn, do they have transferable skills. Though we did have one guy flatout lie about his background, then he spent a few weeks on Instagram instead of working.

[-] turkalino@lemmy.yachts 4 points 9 hours ago

As for actual lying, with HR and AI HR hiring, its about getting in front of a person so they can actually find out your skills

But then what do you do once you get in front of an actual person and they ask you something about a lie you put in to appease the AI?

[-] BCsven@lemmy.ca 1 points 4 hours ago

I should have said stretched the truth. Not just making shit up

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