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Why is it so hard to get friends to leave Discord, WhatsApp, Instagram, and others? Anyone else feel this? (lemmy.world)

submitted 4 days ago by autonomoususer@lemmy.world to c/privacy@lemmy.ml

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I’ve been seeing this more and more in comments, and it’s got me wondering just how big this issue really is. A lot of people feel trapped in apps like Discord, WhatsApp, and Instagram, but can’t get their friends to leave.

It’s really annoying when you suggest trying something new, whether it’s a different app or just not using these platforms so much but sometimes it can feel like no one wants to go first.

So I’m curious, what apps do you feel most trapped in? And have you tried convincing your friends to leave them? What happened? Is it an issue for you, or are you just going along with the flow?

Looking forward to hearing if this is as common as it feels!

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[-] OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 7 points 3 days ago

People will still use discord even if it got entirely banned, there just isn't a good alternative now that is clear

[-] VoxAliorum@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 days ago

Not federated but a pretty good alternative coming up with Revolt - still has a good way to go though.

[-] OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 1 points 1 day ago

Revolt would be good, but they lack screen share, that really was the only reason why we didn't keep using it

[-] VoxAliorum@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

they lack screen share

While they do lack screen share, it is in active development. See https://github.com/revoltchat/backend/issues/313 I am not a dev of revolt.

[-] brucethemoose@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago

Interesting.

What’s the catch? Is it all self hosted? If not, where’s the hosting cash coming from?

[-] VoxAliorum@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I can't say for sure, but see this answer from 2022: https://github.com/orgs/revoltchat/discussions/309?utm_source=chatgpt.com#discussioncomment-2232628

currently we are running on donations which we have plenty of

[-] mygoodsir@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 days ago

Lol, what because you tried Matrix and it SUCKS on both client and server?

XMPP can have a whole ass facebook app built inside it called Movim and it can be accessed from any "homeserver". It can be far more than Discord will ever want to be, if the cats can be herded

If you don't use Matrix well I guess bc it's ubiquitous among squishy Linux and leftist communities for some godawful reason despite being Israeli-developed, US state dept funded, and idiot-maintained. They even have a slot for it on these lemmy accounts

[-] OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 1 points 1 day ago

You talk like a prick

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