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[Jenny Gorelick] Co-Stars
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If the point was the orgasm, mutial masturbation would be faster, easier, cleaner, etc. Even if neither one ever cums, it's not important. The important part of the process is that it's them doing it, in the same way that it doesn't matter if you spend all evening at dinner joking about inane bullshit and never getting into a deep, meaningful discussion about the meaning of life. Talking together is the point. Trying is the point. Devoting yourself to each other is the point. If you achieve that connection, you have succeeded, regardless. And if you succeed on that level, the pleasure comes naturally. People can achieve touchless orgasm if they have the psychological/emotional investment. If she's not cumming, I question the relationship, not the sex. (Especially with her being a comedian, a class rife with emotional trauma)
Isn't this exactly what it is? "use my vibrator with a partner" either means the partner uses it or stimulates them while they do
Let's ignore all medical and social reasons as to why someone can't cum; it must surely be because the relationship between the two partners!
Frankly I don't really get your comment. What I'm saying is: using a tool for sex isn't bad as long as you're doing it together?
Yeah, and that's kind of crappy. People in a loving relationship won't be treating each other the same way one treats a one night stand, just using each other to masturbate. If you can do that to someone you say you love, I don't think you love them.
Not relevant. When discussing techniques for the application of hair products, those with alopecia are not relevant. Someone who is medically differentiated like that has a completely different start and goal point from the average person and has to be approached completely differently.
Not totally certain what you mean, but I'm guessing psychological or interpersonal. If it's psychological, that's medical. If it's interpersonal, that's the exact thing I'm talking about.
Using a vibe or something isn't 'bad' (morally) so much as it is a 'bad sign.' (red flag) If your friend came to you and said 'I enjoy talking with my boyfriend, but only when there's someone else in the conversation' or 'but only when I've been drinking/getting high,' or something else where they only seem to enjoy the interaction when they have some sort of external force modifying the experience, would you think their relationship was healthy? I would not. It might not be a horror show the way some others are, but it could be better.
What? You have serious problems if you believe that. I don’t get what you’re saying. I’m saying using a tool for mutual masturbation (or one at a time) is the same as classical normal masturbation of each other. Both are acceptable and normal in a relationship.
It does when it’s frequent. Also, you’re the one making a generalization, so if you don’t specify, that’s on you
As for your last paragraph, well I don’t see any link with what I said. Unrelated