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Is 16 and 19 really that bad?
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It's not a big deal. The only people complain are social justice warriors. If you were 22 and they were 25 no one would care. It's 3 years. People are brainwashed to get triggered over it. Lol it's not even their business
Okay boomer.
The difference in age between 22 and 25 is a lot less than between 19 and 16.
Its exactly the same. 3 years on paper and 4 year of duration. I don't know what lala land you're living in but it's the same numerically
The same numerically. You’re not that obtuse, so is this a joke or are you a cringey debatelord?
numerically adverb
Doubling down on feigned obtuseness, I see.
You can take the girl out of Reddit, but can’t take the Reddit out of the girl.
You're not talking about anything. Just typing for fun
A 10 year age gap is the same numerically at age 40-50 as it is at age 10-20 but they are clearly vastly different. There's an implicit power imbalance.
So you give a whole new example. Do you want to compare an one hundred year gap now? They are different things. You just gave a more extreme example. 4 years is not much and doesn't matter
It's the same numerically, like you said.
Try moving that in the other direction though; I expect you'll eventually find pairing that makes you uncomfortable.
Who cares about your hypotheticals. We are talking about teenagers who smoke, drink, fight. They aren't 4 and 7. You all surely can comprehend this
If it really was a 4-year-old dating a 7-year-old, I unironically feel like that would be more comfortable, probably because "dating" between little children is kind of silly in my mind.
Overall, my take would probably be "An adult who deliberately gets into a relationship with a minor (like the friend's ex) is kind of weird, while an established couple with a 3-year age gap (like Jessica/Vitor herself) is fine."
It's subjective. You think it's silly but someone else might think it's gross. In 78% of America the age of consent is either the age 16 or 17.
You all have to accept this. I will add that it's all made up anyway. Your an "adult" when you're 18 but can't drink until your 21. I thought you were an adult already. You can't even rent a car until you're 25 without an extra fee because they don't consider you "adult enough"
They are all constructs. Only existing within the minds of certain people with reality and the universe caring nothing about it at all