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Would you try a FOSS dating app?
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this post was submitted on 23 Nov 2025
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95% of your male users would have zero swipes on the app, and then stop using it
and most of the women will swipe on 5% of the men, and also leave because those 5% of men will only respond to like 5% of the swipes they get, so 95% of them get shafted.
and this is why dating apps don't work. people don't use them logically or reasonably. dating is all about chasing hot people who won't give you the time of day and ignoring people who would actually date you because they are not as attractive as the people who ignore you.
so it's the same result as the current tinder system, except im not swiping 500 girls for an hour. yea, it sounds good
the app could give the guy some performance metrics. view count, swipe ratio. he can make tweaks to his profile, a/b test. it could actually be pretty interesting
the tinder system doesnt' show you how 99.9% of women are rejecting you. just like the lottery, the point is the delusion that you might 'win' even though statistically, you won't ever.
if the average user saw that reality, they'd give up. they would not try to improve.
apps can't fix biological imperatives. all they do is magnify them. i'm a guy who gets matches on apps regularly... most women interpret my profile as the complete opposite of what it says. it's hilarious. but that's because people see what they want to see, they don't see what you literally tell them.
not my problem honestly