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Would you try a FOSS dating app?
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this post was submitted on 23 Nov 2025
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This is very heteronormative and gender binaried. Queer people exist and date.
That said, anecdotally, from the handful of women I've talked about this with: many don't like making first moves on these apps.
Using dating apps is a skill, and if you haven't been practicing sending messages you're going to be bad at it. The vast majority of first messages I got from women were "hey". Trash tier. Probably because they just haven't done it very often.
it's an idea meant to address a problem which is specific to the heteronormative gender binaried online dating experience. it probably wouldn't do anything to improve other dating configurations