Why are the you are the problem comments so common on Lemmy? (blackneon.net)

submitted 4 weeks ago by King@blackneon.net to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I read some people who vent on their posts or talk about problems they face in life and the replies they get is, no you are the problem, fuck you.

On Reddit, the only thing that is close to this is when women complain about their boyfriends, they got told to leave them, whatever is her complaint about.

Any explanation?

Disclaimer: I am not talking about my own experiences here, but rather what I read in other posts, my observations could be wrong.

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[-] Bah@lemmy.world 4 points 4 weeks ago

Applicable to the early days of any platform. The early adopters are those that are comfortable being away from the masses on popular alternatives. They are aware their comments and posts will get less views and engagement and therefore can be less restrained. They also need to be relatively tech literate since it's less user friendly than more established platforms.

The result is you get a certain type of person that is more willing to speak their mind rather than craft the most acceptable response.

Lemmy is still more reddit influenced than old emerging platforms, so we get more of a mix which creates differing expectations.

Not saying it's good or bad, but once a platform develops and attracts the general public, there's usually an outcry for the "old days".

this post was submitted on 25 Nov 2025

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