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Imagine being afraid of the ‘friend zone’ (hexbear.net)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by Lussy@hexbear.net to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

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Oh no, my miserable life that’s devoid of any connection and anyone altogether otherwise *at least contains a friend.

What the fuck man, is this a real concern average people have that I’m way too fucking alienated to understand

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[-] CarbonScored@hexbear.net 19 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

While I agree principally, I think a good percentage of people in the world reserve that kind of intimacy for their romantic partner, or select one or two long-term friends already in their life. So if they're unwilling to have a romance, I think the odds are very small that a deep personal connection will then bloom.

[-] DroneRights@hexbear.net 9 points 2 years ago

So then we're back at the issue that people hate being friendzoned because they refuse to value friendships

[-] CarbonScored@hexbear.net 16 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I think people hate being friendzoned because others' ideas of 'friendships' likely doesn't match include the level of personal connection they want. It would be cool if everyone was willing and able to have deep personal connections with their friends, but I don't think it's reasonable to expect it. I don't think reserving deep intimacy for a specific few people is the same as 'refusing to value friendships'.

It's a fair way to live one's life, but it will mean it's not unreasonable for other people to be disappointed when told they can't establish in that deeper connection.