The anti trans crowd aren't unequipped to describe what they are seeing. They aren't interested in the journey so they don't look at the map. They don't see the inner journey of doubt, realization, to empowering actualization.

To them a person just decides they are going to be someone new and it becomes taboo to ever reference the person they knew. They are uncurious about what happened to that person and don't know that what looks like a decision is a realization. No one walks them through the nightmare period of endless self doubt and denial. They have no clue about any part of the struggle.

The real heart break is that trans art is amazing at sharing the experience but the anti trans folks are uncurious and siloed in their media consumption so they don't explore anything they don't know.