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What topic do you LOVE to talk about, but rarely get to?
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There's more than two choices here for you and your father that don't boil down to logic puzzles or child abuse.
It sounds like his heart was in the right place, but without understanding your mental capabilities.
At that ages, punishments need to be clearly established and actionable. The child is behaving badly, the parent demonstrates "if you keep doing that, you'll lose out on (Xbox, free time, family game night etc etc), then following through. If that fails, then removing the child to isolate for a while. Once they've calmed down, then following through with the aforementioned punishment.
Your father's punishments would probably start working around 9-10 years old according to research.
Finally, the "I got hit and I turned out okay" is terrible logic. That justifies any behaviour that someone can survive through. Just glance at the research to see why smacking is a wholly negative ordeal with no upsides for the child.