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submitted 1 day ago by Caesium@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Sorry for the weird question, don't know how else to word it. Basically I'm job hunting and I'm realizing the dress code is gonna be an obstacle.

I exclusively wear skirts and dresses. Not for a religion -- I'm agnostic -- but for sensory reasons. I hate pants. I hate how they feel on my legs and I haven't worn them in almost 10 years now. I understand the need to wear pants for some jobs because they're ultimately safer than a flowy skirt, but one of the jobs I've applied to is a bank. I doubt the building is a skirt deathtrap behind the scenes.

Honestly the idea of having to wear pants is so upsetting I'm breaking down over it. It's so stupid but after I finally found a way to feel comfortable when I started wearing skirts, I don't think I can go back even if the job is better than my current one.

My only idea is to get some kind of doctors note but even that seems unlikely. Hoping for other ideas here.

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[-] communism@lemmy.ml 38 points 1 day ago

Skirts are fairly common formalwear, at least for women. Are you a man? If not, I think any office job, receptionist job, etc, would be fine with you wearing a skirt. I imagine it'd only be some forms of manual labour where a skirt would get in the way.

Why would a bank make you not wear a skirt?

[-] Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 day ago

I wondered that too. I don't even think I saw a female banker in anything BUT a skirt.

And even if male...who cares. Skirts rock! Fuck the rigid jobworld

[-] HubertManne@piefed.social 3 points 1 day ago

I don't think I have seen someone in a skirt in a customer facing role in awhile. In office not to uncommon but dresses seem more common or at least longish skirts.

[-] Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 day ago

But in those places you saw long skirts or dresses, everything but mini-skirts (I just assumed that) is probably fine too.

[-] HubertManne@piefed.social 1 points 1 day ago

honestly if the skirt goes below the knee it kinda gets filed under dress in my brain.

[-] Dyskolos@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago

Makes sense to me, but wifey would probably roll her eyes hard to this male ignorance ๐Ÿ˜

this post was submitted on 25 Mar 2026
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