I guess they aren't really "meeting" you so much as they are "using you to confirm their preconceived notions about people different from them in order to compensate for their own issues with self-esteem, while also pretending they are brave heroes fighting an imaginary enemy."

Which is something I do have experience with. It really sucks when you're just quietly being yourself and having some asshole insult and mock you for existing.

I never really understood the suppression of Xenogender people from more liberal trans spaces until now, so thanks for helping to educate me!