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When I see people out exercising I often get the urge to yell that they are doing a good job or looking great if I see them working hard. But I never do.
I'm a cis man, so maybe take this with a grain of salt, but if I get encourement from a random person like this, I absolutely kick my effort up a notch and remember it for months-years.
I'd like think people might be able to tell the difference between "keep it up" or "you're doing great" and a full on catcall, but I've never been catcalled so... ¯\(ツ)/¯
Well yeah. As a cis man it'll be the only affermation you've had this decade.
If someone said that to me I would probably assume it's sarcasm
I've done it plenty of times.
I did it to encourage people to be in good shape, because it started with people doing it to me.
I go for a thumbs up in that scenario.
I enjoy giving compliments to passing strangers because I know how much it means to me in the rare occasions that I have received one. Of course i'm very careful to not choose stress-inducing topics and not to time it when the subject would be stuck with me, e.g. an elevator.
I get to see so many smiles from recognizing cartoon characters on kids' clothes, complimenting older guys on their bold hat choices, or someone's colorful glasses frames.
The world needs more smiles!
Why ? are you afraid it would be mistaken for catcalling ?
When is catcalling catcalling. Is asking someone out catcalling?
Is asking someone out on the street catcalling?
Whistles and calling out sexual things usually. Comments on a woman’s body, what they’d like to do to her, etc.
No one is asking for dates while they’re catcalling.
Velma answered the question, but I also want to add that politely asking someone out is not cat calling. But Idk why you would ask someone out on the street. Context and place matters of course. If I am walking to the bus stop to go to work I really don't like being asked out. I'm trying to get from point A to point B. I'm not really looking for a date, especially not from a street stranger. There is no built in safety net for women on a random street and a lot of women already have safety concerns walking alone in public. There is also a lack of prior consent to engage.
I don't think so, but I am no authority