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this post was submitted on 06 Sep 2023
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I don't want to sound like an incel, and I like eating vag/salad as much as the next guy, but imagine this image with the genders reversed
IMO either party doing this is fine as long as it's discussed and within the comfort bounds of the people in the relationship.
I think the problem is an expectation when there has been no discussion about whether or not it's within someone's limits.
I have no issue with oral sex between consenting adults. But this meme would not be as well received if the genders were reversed. It's hard to even imagine someone posting "always be there for your man in a time of crisis" with the woman going down on the guy.
I can only speak for myself but I wouldn't really mind it the other way around as long as there's no implied use of force or manipulation.
Feel free to reverse the genders & post this on twitter then. Getting banned from the internet speedrun any%
Twitter = the internet
I believe "consenting" is key here.
The reason why it's taboo if the genders were reversed is because there is a long and well documented history of non-consent when genders are reversed.
Was there non-consent where gals are forcing guys? Very likely. However what evidence I've seen suggests this is dwarfed by guys forcing gals.
im gonna post a reversed version of this im really curious what'll happen
part of the joke is the reversal of the stereotype.
breaking stereotypes = good
enforcing stereotypes = bad
Yes i imagined it, very nice. Whats the next step?
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I agree that it would look quite different with the genders reversed. However, gender equality is not like mathematical equality, where every situation needs to be reversible.
Women have traditionally been less sex-positive and less dominant, which many consider indicators of a lack of true gender equality, so a progressive community will celebrate a reversal of that.
Bad behavior is still bad behavior, regardless of who's doing it. The oppressed engaging in the same behavior as their former oppressors is not equality, it's just more oppression.
But situations regarding the handling of power dynamics and standards of consent/coercion absolutely should be reversible.
Well, consent is non-negotiable. I understood the comic as depicting a consenting couple.
As for power dynamics, I'm certainly not on board with her having communicated, she had an emergency. That is just disrespectful. But that one looks bad on both genders.
The existence of power dynamics in a relationship in general always looks bad, for both sides, in my opinion.
Nothing wrong with a consenting partner
Yes, but not quite the point I was making
I guess the problem is the assumption that the man is consenting. A meme is not a place to go for realistic depictions of sex, though. I think this one is playing off that to create conflict/engagement.
It's a joke. People lost their sense of humor
Man, it's not a great message. But as far as jokes/memes go, this is funny as hell
I mean, yours is objectively funnier aswell. This one falls pretty flat.
The real tragedy is that either of these pass as comedy these days. The bar couldn't be lower.
Oh boy I'm sorry I'm the one to have to break it to you, but the bar could be a lot ~lower~
Everyone here will pretend they would be fine with it now that you called out the hypocrisy. Or they'll argue men deserve it as some kind of "payback", in which case it's really not about equality of course.
I'm sorry, they'll argue that men deserve what as a form of payback? Cause you're phrasing it like there's some kind of discrmination or persecution against men going on here and I fail to see it.
It doesn't have to be persecution to be sexist and therefore hypocritical in a culture that claims to be opposed to sexism. I'm personally fine with a joke like this, I just also happen to think that if the characters in this one were reversed there would be all sorts of outrage and accusations of toxic masculinity.
What would be the issue then? 2 consenting people can show each other what they want sexually, no matter the gender
It would be fine in a porn comic, but provoke a scandal in a "regular" memes community
In my mind she has a cock. She also is built like an amazon, so she can just lift me up and flip me round for some standing 69. Nice
Its the internet. No imagination needed