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I have a really good memory. I can recall whole conversations from 10 years ago.
Its so frustrating when people say one thing but do another. They love claiming that I'm making stuff up and "I didn't say that"
I learned to record every important conversation years ago...
Though they still say that I faked the recordings, etc if something comes up.
I think you need to learn more about how memory works. Unless you actually have a photographic memory (which is incredibly rare), you do not remember everything perfectly.
A lot people have difficulty accepting this though, so you're not alone.
Its not perfect at all. I'm only hyper good at conversations.
I'm super bad with names and faces. I feel face blind sometimes. I see it as a trade off.
Every study that ever comes out shows that memory is REMARKABLY fallible.
No matter how convinced you are that you remember those conversations perfectly, I encourage you to explore the idea that.... maybe you don't.
I've been testing it vs recordings while taking care of the elderly for the last 5 years.
The thing is that I'm really great with conversations but I'm nearly face and name blind when it comes strangers. So my memory isn't perfect, just really good in some situations
I encourage you to explore the idea that when a person has existed with some reality for decades, they already have explored it.
Maybe you can just learn to accept that people can change, especially over a period of years.
They remember when it benefits them I bet.
Oh for sure. It's like I'm held to a higher standard. I can never say "I don't recall" to get put of trouble like the politicians do...
There is so much naivet here it's beautiful.
Seems like one of those blessing curses.
Its a curse in some other ways. While I'm hyper good at conversations woth people I know, I feel face and name blind when it even comes to acquaintances.
I do not believe your story