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Every time you interact with someone you should give them a base level of respect. How they respond determines the amount of respect you continue to proceed with.

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[-] Pons_Aelius@kbin.social 45 points 1 year ago

Slightly disagree.

Every time you interact with someone you should give them a base level of respect.

No. This is true for the first meeting with someone. After that the level of respect is based on their previous behaviour.

Regularly act like a shithead, zero respect required.

Respect is earned. If you don't treat other people, animals, public property etc with respect, you deserve none in return.

[-] Mowcherie@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

In a way, you respect yourself by not sinking to their level.

[-] Pons_Aelius@kbin.social 9 points 1 year ago

You respect yourself by not allowing yourself to have anything to do with them once they lose all respect.

I have a family member I refuse to have any contact with.

[-] ultratiem@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago
[-] PP_BOY_@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Mad respect, G

[-] ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

But that's my point. If they're disrespectful then you lower the amount of respect you give them.

[-] over_clox@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

So if a stranger disrespects me, I should disrespect them more?

Sounds like a mutual self destructive relationship if you ask me. Someone either has to be the better person, or just walk away.

[-] Maeve@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

Eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind, but if you can’t avoid a fight, ftw. Not words, talk is cheap, but in my corner of the world guns are ubiquitous too. There’s a difference between doormat/whipping person and hostile but at the end of the day, survival instinct is strong.

[-] ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Walking away is just as disrespectful as dropping to their level. It sends the same message just with less effort.

[-] MrPoopyButthole@lemmy.world -1 points 1 year ago
[-] ThatWeirdGuy1001@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Good argument. I love all the great points you made. It really persuaded me.

[-] MrPoopyButthole@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

You're welcome

[-] Pons_Aelius@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

I disagree with you that there is a minimum anyone deserves.

Past a certain point you are disrespecting yourself to allow them to be in your presence or have any contact with you.

[-] tun@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

Agree.

  1. Respect has to be earned (you cannot demand)
  2. Give proper respect (don't expect they will reciprocate)

Those are my thoughts.

[-] scarabic@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

Right but often the self-respecting thing to do is not stoop to their level and make a mess.

[-] Pons_Aelius@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

And some times you have to stoop to their level as some arseholes see any respect as weakness and the behaviour will continue. It should never be the first choice but it it is still an option in extreme cases.

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