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Why YSK: These email tips are helpful for people who struggle with boundaries and want to communicate more assertively.

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[-] Helldiver_M@kbin.social 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

While most of these are a good rule of thumb, I disagree with 'Always Happy to Help.' > 'No Problem.'

I'm always happy to help can be a fine response, if you're actually willing to make your time available for the recipient at the drop of a hat. Sometimes that might be called for, but I would only reserve that for a few very specific circumstances. I also don't see an issue with saying 'no problem' in many circumstances. There are situations where something a little more formal is called for, but 90% of the time it should work imho.

[-] not_woody_shaw@lemmy.world 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I feel like "always happy to help" is one of those London Lies (tm)(how do I do superscript?) ...that might not work in another environment that's not so superficially polite while simultaneously devastating rude.

[-] Lemmylefty@vlemmy.net 6 points 1 year ago

It’s also a generational thing: everyone around me up to the mid 30s uses “no problem” to indicate that the request/help was of little bother so the requester shouldn’t feel bad for asking, which can sometimes annoy the people who say “you’re welcome” instead.

“Happy to help”, to me, suggests a greater eagerness than just being kind.

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