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Extreme Misogyny in Incels Probably Not Caused by Sexual Frustration
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My theory that a rising number of men end up being Incels is that it's getting harder and harder for young men to make any experience with women at all.
Online and offline dating became toxic af which leads to frustration. This frustration opens the door for people like Andrew Tate.
The article from OP says the most misogynistic men are ironically the ones which get laid the most. I'd put Andrew Tate into this category.
Why do you suppose dating is worse now? I will disagree any time and place with people who say online dating is awful. The alternative -- randomly hitting on people and hoping a million unknowable factors all line up -- is far worse.
You are joking right? Online dating is even worse than offline dating.
First of all there are far more men using online dating than women.
Second men like and Text way to many women which leads women's inboxes to be overfilled.
Most of the few available women only want the top 15% of the men.
Then the dead profiles aka. only their Instagram username tagged in bio.
And there are also those who chat with you for a few days and then try to sell their adult content to you or want you to invest in crypto XY.
I've met my gf on a dating platform 5 years ago and the online dating situation was bad then already. I occasionally saw the posts in r/tinder and oh boy has that thing become a shitshow since then.
Idk I'm a married dude nearing 40 who is on dating sites a fair amount (it's cool so is my wife), and I'm a pretty average guy all-around, and it doesn't seem like this hellscape you paint it as. I have everything possible stacked against me for online dating, and I consistently get what I'm looking for.
Yeah there are lots of crazies, but that's because crazy people exist, and you'd run into them in more traditional dating too. Check out any romcom from the 90s and there'll likely be a montage of crazies.
I am glad that online dating works out for you my friend. Don't wanna offend you but we are talking about young people. you turning 40 means you are middle aged. The customers of Tate and similar assholes are mostly under 30 years.
I regularly speak with women in their late 20s. My cutoff is 26 so I avoid people my daughter knows.
If you're on sites specializing in ENM that's probably why, niche enough that the bots and toxic algo practices haven't descended upon them yet
If there are ENM sites with people on them I'd love a link. I mainly stick to Tinder and Bumble because Feeld hasn't been adopted in my area.
Very open to suggestions tho.
Feeld has been really good for me compared to other apps. Im a relatively vanilla fellow but the culture around communication is stronger there and the results have been good. And Ive only been using it for single dating so far.
Hope it rolls out for you soon because it has been a refreshing experience
I really like Feeld, it's just that there's near-zero adoption here. I keep semi-active on it in the hopes the user number keeps growing tho!
Bloom is what I use right now
I'll check it out!
So you are a success story yourself for online dating, but because you see the most insane experiences from it getting posted on social media, it's obviously now irredeemable...? Do you not have any self awareness?
it's not a "success story". I've experienced ALOT of bad stuff before my gf messaged me. I've been on multiple dating platforms and all of them were toxic af. I was deleting my accounts while my gf texted me.
Having bad experiences doesn't erase the fact that you got a long term girlfriend from using online dating. That is still what happened. Unless you want to break up with your girlfriend right now, denying it's a success story is denying reality.
Like are you people really old or what? Everyone who can't stfu about how bad online dating is always confuses me.