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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net to c/chapotraphouse@hexbear.net

Isn't the entire point of the profile and matching system to filter incompatible people out? Why can I match with 50 people and not a single one wants to get a coffee or something after exchanging a few pleasantries? Everybody hates these things and yet they refuse to do anything IRL to get off them. Is there some Manchurian candidate activation codeword that I'm missing? I feel like everyone treats this shit solely as an ego booster and actually gets pissed off that anyone tries to interact with them. How do you meet people in hellworld if you don't drink?

Me after dozens of dead-end back-and-forths that lead to nowhere despite having shared interests and presumably being attracted to each other since we matched: marx-joker

Hmm, maybe it's the extreme commodification of relationships and atomization under capitalism that prevents you from getting anywhere with this garbage thinkin-lenin

Nope, must be because @SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net didn't say my favorite "The Office" quote and send me a playlist with 50 of the greatest songs I've never heard that made me instantly fall in love with them. I have no idea what other people expect from these things but I'm not doing labor for someone that I don't even know is real. Thanks for reading my rant, any advice is appreciated.

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[-] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 53 points 1 year ago

No, they deliberately get in the way of you matching with the most compatible people unless you pay for "premium" features that used to be core functionality

[-] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 39 points 1 year ago

I'm just a few weeks into this hell and probably going to be done with it soon. I need to find some events to go to that aren't centered on drinking. Then I just have to wrangle with my crippling social anxiety.

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