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I'm afraid since I'm autistic but I also have some other marginalized identities. Not to mention that I was sheltered throughout my youth. It's hard to imagine the future nowadays.
Not saying planning for the future isn't important, but life is more enjoyable if we can learn to take things as they come in the moment instead of getting consumed by trying to prepare for or anticipate potential future outcomes. We usually don't actually prepare ourselves any better, and it more often just detracts from the quality of life in the present.
Again, not talking about planning for one's future, budgeting, etc. I mean more the tendency a lot of people have in trying to predict outcomes or engage in mind-reading. I'm sure we've all ruined a day by worrying about something and psyching ourselves up to "anticipate" or "prepare" for a bad outcome, only for us to be dead wrong, and not meet the anticipated crisis.
My quality of life improved tremously when I started shifting my behavior/outlook to be reactive to real situations that have happened, instead of living in my head, trying to predict and prepare for the infinite possible outcomes that exist for every situation.