602
What's a quote that has stuck with you for your whole life?
(lemmy.fmhy.ml)
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
this post was submitted on 12 Jul 2023
602 points (98.2% liked)
Asklemmy
43852 readers
929 users here now
A loosely moderated place to ask open-ended questions
Search asklemmy ๐
If your post meets the following criteria, it's welcome here!
- Open-ended question
- Not offensive: at this point, we do not have the bandwidth to moderate overtly political discussions. Assume best intent and be excellent to each other.
- Not regarding using or support for Lemmy: context, see the list of support communities and tools for finding communities below
- Not ad nauseam inducing: please make sure it is a question that would be new to most members
- An actual topic of discussion
Looking for support?
Looking for a community?
- Lemmyverse: community search
- sub.rehab: maps old subreddits to fediverse options, marks official as such
- !lemmy411@lemmy.ca: a community for finding communities
~Icon~ ~by~ ~@Double_A@discuss.tchncs.de~
founded 5 years ago
MODERATORS
When I was 11, my teacher told the class "if you don't have time, make time" and it just stuck to me ever since.
Now it just irritates me whenever someone says they don't have time.
Love this! So many of the "no time" people act like victims when it's their own choice! No one told you to commit yourself to all those things. And if you can't make time, it's not a priority then.
I've felt this way for a long time. Now I've got 2 toddlers and the hours of 6a-9p are completely consumed with children or work. I don't know how to make time anymore
In the (very good) video game pillars of eternity 2, an imp comes to tell you his wizard wants you to see him. If you respond with "I'll go if I have time" the imp replies "pfth. Who has time? You have to make time". Now I think about this a lot.
I've also learned that sometimes when people say they don't have time they actually mean they don't want to, but they think a small lie is more polite. Personally if I invite you to something I'd rather you tell me you're not interested so I know not to invite you in the future. But some people are cripplingly conflict avoidant.