Many of these features are required by law in the US for cars that have ADAS (advanced driver assistance systems). The car has to monitor what's happening and what it's doing and record some of that in case there's an accident. It also has to monitor your attentiveness so you don't "accidentally" drift off to sleep while it's in control.

Imagine if his son were driving and got into a crash with ADAS enabled and there weren't any record of whose fault it was, the driver or the car. Ford would be like, "We'll, I guess we'll never know. Good luck with medical bills and a lifetime of suffering."

Sounds like the speed limiter is a setting that can be disabled. As for the other stuff, sharing phone data, that's pretty disgusting. I would guess what they're actually after is whether you're watching the road or playing with your device. Still not okay without explicit consent before you buy the car.