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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by FlyingSquid@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemmy.world

I cannot keep my job. Firstly because I'm on FMLA (unpaid medical leave) for a mystery illness and I cannot guarantee that, even if finally diagnosed, I will be recovered by the 12 week maximum allotted.

Secondly because we've put our daughter in online school due to severe bullying. The program she's in now is awful and I have to help her through her English lessons (she's in 7th grade and they're having her read 18th century texts). We're switching her to a new program next semester which requires a parent to be a full-time "learning coach" for their kid to keep them on track.

It's a terrible job. I absolutely hate it. The pay is low, the job is boring, my co-workers don't really care about my existence, and my bosses are friendly but unreasonable. The only thing I like is that I have a hybrid schedule where I can work from home for 18 hours a week. But spending the other 22 hours in the office sucks. I spend the whole time wearing noise-cancelling headphones just to get through the time there. I've wanted to leave this job for a good year now although I admit I wasn't trying very hard to find another one.

But I just can't bring myself to resign. I don't know why. Something is stopping me like it's the wrong thing to do. I know I will be happier even though we will be on a single income, I am doing the right thing for my daughter, and I have no idea when this medical issue will be resolved.

I was going to write the resignation letter last Friday. Every day I mean to write it and every day I just can't do it. I know I have to do it soon. Maybe even today. But something won't let me do it. My brain is telling me I can't quit.

Thanks for reading my rant. I don't know why I wrote it. I guess I needed to let it out to someone other than my wife and my boss follows me on non-anonymous social media so I can't really talk about it there.

EDIT: I wrote the email, showed it to my wife to see what she thought and sent it. Now all I have to do is sit back and wait for a reply, but I'm shaking.

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[-] soloner@lemmy.world 13 points 1 year ago

I don't mean to be a dick, but blasting your prior workplace on social media is not really something you should lean into.

You're the only one who really cares about your position there. Even your good friends don't give a shit. A job is a job. I don't care where my friends work and they don't care where I work.

If you want to be honest about why you're leaving, go for it. But don't go posting on SM how it was such a bad place. That just seems immature tbh. Again, nobody cares about this job like you do. Don't make social media your diary.

[-] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world -1 points 1 year ago

This is an anonymous forum. I didn't say what the job was or who I worked for and I didn't identify myself. And other people have been quite helpful.

[-] Kaliax@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

My read from their response was relating to your statement that "she'll find out anyway (on social media)", assuming you'll be posting your reasoning after the fact -- not from this Lemmy post. Just my 2c.

[-] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world -3 points 1 year ago

Yes, because I want my friends to know what's happening in my life just like they let me know what's happening in theirs. I'm not posting it to a bunch of people I don't know.

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