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My codependency. I completely rely on others for my own validity. If people are busy/don't want to hang, it really upsets me.
I know it burns out my closest friends. I talk to most of them daily and over analyze the fuck out of our friendship if they get busy/distracted.
I'm honestly lucky I still have the ones I do. I'm also starting my first therapy session on 31 Jan so I don't lose the people I have in my life.
The fact you're aware of that is huge! You're on your way!
Bruh Lemmy is so fucking supportive and wholesome. Thank you!
I will admit tho, it's taken me until my mid-thirties to hit this point, and there are many relationships from my past that I wish I could have saved. Can't dwell there though, gotta save the ones I have now and be the best wife I can be for my husband (and the best me I can be for myself!)
I 100% believe you've got this. You're 90% of the way there already. You have identified a problem, determined the source of the problem, determined the problem's current and probable effects in your lives and the lives of others, identified several solutions, and have a plan in place. All you need is the methodology for solving this problem (which you already have on the calendar).
You're so close!