Micay

This sounds like some kind of personal beef with Micay. That's understandable, and here's a Louis Rossmann video showing how toxic that individual can be (you go over some of that in your links as well). So I absolutely get it.

That said, the project itself is fantastic. Here's the Privacy Guides page on why GrapheneOS is preferred. It also goes into why it's preferred over CalyxOS and other alternatives, and offers DivestOS as a good alternative (here's the supported device list if you're interested).

You mean the same thieves who stole PrivacyTools website

I'll provide the two sides I have:

• privacy guides reasoning for parting from Privacy Tools
• privacy tools discussion about Jonah Aragon

To me, the Privacy Guides version of the story seems more believable, at least in terms of where the contributors went. I think both sides absolutely have a point, but this archived page has some pretty serious allegations about Privacy Tools being biased by their affiliate partners (to be fair, the way Jonah handled this is distasteful, he should have just started his own project).

That said, I think the content at Privacy Guides is currently better than at Privacy Tools, and I like that discussion happens in the open.

I hope you're sensing a trend here: we should restrict discussions to technical merits, not discussions about individuals. I dislike both Daniel Micay and Jonah Aragon as people, at least from the limited information I have, but I think both run solid projects. The same is true for other FOSS projects, like GNU/FSF and Richard Stallman, OpenBSD and Theo de Raadt, etc. However, I think each heads a solid project, so I'll continue recommending them based on their technical merits. I hope each survives their founders once they inevitably leave the project.

I have been on this for months looking what to do about this nonsense making its way on from Reddit/4chan onto Lemmy.

May I suggest a pinned post so decisions like this can be made in the open? Clearly state the problem (ideally more concise than what you've linked from Reddit), and why you think the solutions are valuable.

My recommendation is some kind of "no-dogmatism" rule, which makes it clear that privacy is a process, not an end goal. Likewise, we should be careful to elucidate the process for choosing products, not the products themselves (i.e. see Louis Rossmann walk back his support for Lenovo here over warranty BS when you install an alternative ROM). I think it's reasonable that for every product recommendation here, users are expected to give reasons (or a link to reasons) why that product is worth looking into, with a strong nudge to compare to other projects (e.g. why GrapheneOS over Calyx or DivestOS).

Ideally, there would be some kind of wiki the community could keep that links to sites along with notes about caveats and whatnot (e.g. Privacy Tools' conflict of interest allegations, GrapheneOS' toxic leader, etc), with the intent of being a resource of where to get more information instead of a definitive guide.

That's my take at least. I also don't want this community to fall into group thing, but that also includes group thing against projects just because their leaders aren't ideal.