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[-] Nemo@midwest.social 17 points 1 year ago
[-] SeeJayEmm@lemmy.procrastinati.org 21 points 1 year ago

That really depends on if it's an exception or a consistent pattern.

[-] EliasChao@lemmy.one 11 points 1 year ago

I have a friend that’s always late, like literally always. I tried to put myself in his shoes because he’s got 2 small kids and that should be extremely exhausting, but I don’t think he even tries anymore.

[-] Cube6392@beehaw.org 14 points 1 year ago

I'm perpetually late. Trying to arrive on time to things I don't occupies so much of my head. I try to build in buffer time for emergencies. And every single time I'm still late. I don't even have two kids. If your friend is anything like me, arriving late fills him with guilt every single time, and the two kids are factors of chaos in planning that simply cannot ever be fully accounted for

[-] Aosih@lemm.ee 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Reframe the way you think. Stop trying to arrive on time, and just commit to arriving early. I've easily arrived an hour early to appointments and just lounged around on reddit or read a book. I'd rather waste an hour of my time, than 15 minutes of a friend's (if you have an appointment with a group, multiply time you are late by # of people).

This is what we mean when we say people who are constantly late don't care about wasting other people's time. Even if they don't intend it, they are still choosing to prioritise themselves over others.

An hour seems excessive but shoot for 15 minutes. That should be enough of a bigger in most situations.

[-] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 3 points 1 year ago

I'm ADHD, I literally have to start preparing to leave an hour and half before I need to go in order to be on time to somewhere 15min away, and I'm still sometimes 10-15min late. Why? I have no sense of time, and I have been told that this is not something that I can fix. When I get focused on something, I no longer experience the passage of time. If I'm not focused on something, I can't get anything done.

I can't control this.

I've been told I shouldn't feel bad about it because I can't help it.

I feel horrible for it anyway.

[-] CallumWells@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Would aggressive alarms be of any help to make sure you can get unfocused from the thing you're focused on and moving to the "getting to the right place" part? I've "forgotten the time" when it's just me setting a time for me to do something, but when I need to be somewhere for/with others I make sure to set my alarms earlier and more of them to keep myself from having "just enough time". And I have to make sure I actually respect the alarms, I've made the error of thinking "I have 5 more minutes before I need to leave" so I just start leaving when the alarm goes off now.

I don't know your exact situation, so this may not be of any help, but it may help someone, somewhere.

[-] Nemo@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago

Not really. Almost nobody sets out trying to be late.

[-] Damage@feddit.it 15 points 1 year ago

But if you're constantly late it means that you don't care about wasting other people's time... Kinda assholeish

[-] booptoot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 year ago

Well, youd be surprised... I definitely know people that leave the house past the time they were supposed to be somewhere with a nonchalant attitude "theyll wait, its nbd"

[-] ChaoticEntropy@feddit.uk 3 points 1 year ago

Is that different to not trying to be on time?

[-] Nemo@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago

No, almost all of us are trying to be on time. But that's balanced by other concerns, like making sure we leave the house prepared, and taking public transit, and the needs of the people we're leaving as well as the people we're going to. There isn't always an "earlier" we can leave by, and not everyone is in charge of their own schedule.

[-] ChaoticEntropy@feddit.uk 4 points 1 year ago

None of what you're describing is "not trying to be on time".

You're describing an "all" situation using very specific events. You're also describing a poorly planned arrangement if the time you're expected to arrive at something is not realistic for you to be there. That's different to someone not trying to be on time to something that they otherwise could be and aren't.

[-] SeeJayEmm@lemmy.procrastinati.org 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm sure someone does but sure. But there's a difference between someone who's not trying to be late and someone who actually tries not to be late.

Someone who's habitually late can't be bothered to even try to respect your time. To me that's a bit assholish.

[-] Nemo@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago

There's a skill component, too. A lot of ya are trying not to be late, trying to be early, even, but just are really bad at it.

[-] LucyLastic@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

In Spain it's a way of life. If I'm 10 minutes late for something I just call it Spanish On Time.

[-] kgbbot@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 year ago

My brother runs on what he calls gpt. Gay Time essentially. I'm not gay but sometimes I run on gpt top.

[-] jossbo@lemmy.ml -5 points 1 year ago

Hey I think you need to change your username. Musk baggsied that font for twitter, I mean X.

[-] Nemo@midwest.social 2 points 1 year ago

I'm not sure I understand, can you explain?

[-] jossbo@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

I think the new twitter logo cones from the font you used for your username. Just being silly

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