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Fatherly hazing
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this post was submitted on 07 May 2024
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Embarrassing someone for not knowing something is stupid.
It's critical thinking. In life, it's not always about knowing but about understanding.
It's also about having thick skin and the ability to take a joke. Nobody is hurt, it is funny when you think about it, and it will encourage you to think about things in the future.
I do not need to know turn signals don't require blinker fluid. Because it's a fuckin light bulb.
The people in this comments section are acting like this is somehow traumatic. How fucking sheltered are you people?
Yeah it’s often done a bit to get you used to the environment which includes joking, but it’s also to make you think before you do.
We told the dumbass that worked with us at Wal-Mart he needed to fill up the water fountain. He made 3 trips to the hose and back with one of those big Gatorade coolers dumping it down the drain on the fountain before someone asked him what he was doing. It was hilarious. If it wasn't for the entertainment value he provided I would have hated that guy for all the problems he caused being an idiot.
It's a very good motivator for critical thinking though.
It really isn't. Think about a kid embarrassing their parent over some tech thing they don't know.
*Taking from my other reply:
To understand something (think critically) you need to know the information. So it boils down to embarrassing someone for not knowing things. There is too much in life to know absolutely everything, thus my example on tech.
The parent is supposed to teach the child that information. Not mock and embarrass them for not already knowing it.
That's an old dog though.
And a young dog knows absolutely nothing. Really, you know absolutely nothing when you're born into the world.
My grandmother can use her iPhone just fine, thanks. Old people just grew up still very deep in the “shame” style of teaching and so many are incredibly hesistant to learn knew things. They ‘re either proud they don’t know so it’s “cool” or laugh it off and say “haha old dog!”. Learning the new thing would require exposing themselves to a lot of information they don’t know and the struggle of learning it which all that trauma makes them afraid of.
I could see how sending a kid to the store might be a bit too far, but aside from that it's just harmless teasing. Nothing more than a mild practical joke.
Kids can handle jokes. It's important to learn to laugh at yourself and not take everything seriously. Otherwise you just end up being boring and stuck up.
How is it too far? At worst the kid got a bit of exercise.
Personally I don't think it's too far either--I'd agree with you. I just meant I understand how someone might think "embarrassing" the kid infront of a stranger may be too far
And apparently many of those people end up on lemmy.
You gotta get those trust issues started early!
It's something a lot of building companies are trying to fight because it creates a toxic workplace where people are scared to look foolish so don't ask questions, they did studies and it's related to higher levels of workplace accidents and expenditures.
I'm sure plenty of people will jump in to say that it separates men from boys or the normal excuses for bullying.
I don’t disagree, but there are variations in how these go. This one here aounds like a friendly, good-natured way to teach a younger mind not to believe everything they hear
I think there is an important lesson here though. It's not really about not knowing but not thinking. An inquisitive nature is hard to instill, jokes/games/play are ways humans communicate these abstract processes.
Holy shit Lemmy is fragile
If the story's actually true, it's a harmless prank which doubles as some alone time for a quickie. His dad sounds slick as fuck.
As far as pranks go, this one's pretty harmless. The trick is not taking oneself too seriously.