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Advice on finding a partner?
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this post was submitted on 06 May 2024
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Thank you for being one of the only people to be real about how it's not a guarantee. You might not find anyone. I see way too much fairy tale thinking and all the "just wait, she'll come" nonsense.
Being lonely sucks, being single in a society that requires 2 incomes sucks, but I think being in a shitty relationship just to be in a relationship is worse.
Unfortunately I'm writing from personal experience.
After too many years I don't think I'll ever find anyone. But accepting it was a relief. It's terrifyingly lonely at times, but at least I'm not suicidal any more. And I understand who I am and what is my way of life.
I can't understate the benefits of understanding oneself can have on mental health.
I'm in a similar position, but I think I'm still working through "coming to terms" with my "situation."
It's definitely depressing as I've only had 2 real goals in life: be in a loving relationship, and own a home. Both of those are proving to be exceedingly unlikely to happen the older I get.