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To use your analogy of the abusive ex... would you want someone to just never talk about the abusive ex? Never process the trauma? That's what a lot of people are doing. Noticing that the abusive ex is imploding into a death spiral is kind of validating of your decision to leave. It's part of the process. There's no need to shame people for it.
The post is a week old, but regardless, people have had their time to grieve and process. Your friends and family were there for you, they let you vent, they helped you make the transition away from your partner...but they're gone. It's time to move on. Let it go. You're stuck in denial while most people have made it all the way to acceptance. Everyone is ready for you to stfu about your ex.
You're also reading too much into the analogy. This isn't really an ex, it's a link aggregating website and online forum. Just like nobody cared if you deleted your myspace, your Facebook, digg, Tumblr, TikTok, YouTube, etc...nobody really cares that you deleted your reddit account.
They've had their time according to you but maybe people can make their own decisions? Also maybe just chill about it? You don't have to listen, you don't have to be here for any of the conversations.
Also you've created an entire community of family and friends with backstories so you can then tell me all these imaginary people want me to "stfu", but apparently I'm the one "reading too much into the analogy". I think you're the one that just wants me to "stfu" but you don't want to say it directly.
Yes, that would be great. Stfu. Please. Thank you.
You seem to have missed the extreme irony in saying this whole replying to a sub comment a week after it was posted by someone who agreed with me.
If you want me to stfu you can just block me, or just stop saying things directy to me that are blatantly wrong. Up to you ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
And I don't see what the age of the thread or the fact the poster agreed with you - although they don't exactly, that's another thing you're wrong about - has to do with anything. I'm not here complaining about you talking, I'm pointing out how what you're saying is wrong. You're the one literally saying you want people to "stfu". I'm glad you've at least owned it now.