Older women, women with weight changes or visible disabilities, or transfolk of Lemmy - how has the male gaze changed for you? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) by clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I'm curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.

How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?

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[-] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 14 points 5 months ago

Thank you for commenting. Do you miss it, or are you glad to be rid of creeps?

[-] sunzu@kbin.run 4 points 5 months ago

Now that's a hot take here lol

[-] 1984@lemmy.today -2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Men looking at women are creeps? Guess im a creep. :)

[-] clay_pidgin@sh.itjust.works 4 points 5 months ago

We all look at people for many reasons including sexual interest. It's creepy when someone feels your amorous intent, I think. At least when it's from someone with whom the subject doesn't perceive a romantic relationship.

[-] 1984@lemmy.today 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Yes of course. But have you noticed how everyone assumes that men are staring and making women feel uncomfortable despite nothing like that was expressed?

I've also seen jokes about dicks that everyone seem to think is funny, but when someone mentions actual attraction, the thread goes nuts. :)

[-] meekah@lemmy.world 3 points 5 months ago

The top level comment was deleted by now, so I'm not sure about the context. But Theres a difference between looking and staring.

[-] 1984@lemmy.today 2 points 5 months ago

Nobody said staring. :)

[-] skeezix@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

You should be ashamed of yourself

[-] 1984@lemmy.today 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Lol, it's just not politically correct these days. :)

Human attraction is at the core of human existence and I think it's silly to act like it doesn't exist every day.

[-] skeezix@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

You can look. But you can’t be an ass about it. You can’t leer.

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