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I don't understand why society demonizes that (the multiple people thing, not the lack of communication). If that's what's best for my partner, who am I to stop them? What does exclusivity even get me besides limiting my jealousy?
Polyamoury is cool. Cheating is not cool.
That's all it comes down to - consent
If someone needs multiple partners in their life to feel fulfilled, then wonderful, but they just have to make sure that everyone involved is fine with that before they get into the situation.
Polyamory is very cool for people who are wired for it. A whole lot of people aren't, and that's okay. And some people could be wired for it, but they have a whole lot of self-work to do before they'll practice it well.
It works for me because I know that I never again want to presume any semblance of control or authority over any partner's absolute right to seek out joy and fulfillment by forming however many ethical and consensual relationships they wish, of whatever style they wish, with whomever they wish, for as long as they wish, and I insist upon the same right for myself.
Jealousy is just not an emotion I experience. Envy, yes...envy being wanting what someone else has. When I see a partner of mine having a particular dynamic with another partner that I want to have with them, I feel envy. But not jealousy, which is not wanting someone else to have something of yours. That is, I don't feel anxiety about their other partner "stealing them away from me." Anything lacking between me and a partner has nothing to do with anyone else not in our relationship; if I feel something is missing between us or want things to be a certain way, it is incumbent upon me to speak up, and vice versa. Outside of our relationship, I cheer my partners on in their other connections because love is fucking amazing, man!
Thank you for spelling out my feelings. I've been struggling to process them because I haven't seen any prior art.
In most cultures betraying contracts is usually considered bad, and relationships are basically intimate and emotional contracts. Trust is important even in business contracts, but in interpersonal ones its ESSENTIAL. If you entered into a polyamorous relationship, cool, thats the contract all parties agreed to, but if it wasnt specifically polyamorous its defaults to monogamous, and if you breach that trust, you're probably not getting it back, and without trust ever having a healthy relationship again is probably gone
Granted I haven't been around the dating pool very often but from what I've seen of cheating it's rarely because the person is interested in polyamory but because they are simply normal and are trying to take advantage of one aspect of a relationship and fulfill their other desires with a different relationship for example taking advantage of husband A being rich and take advantage of husband B because he's physically hot both are being taken advantaged of and husband A feels like he's nothing more than a wallet and husband B feels like he's nothing more than a dick on top of all that in the US the family court system very heavily favors women so if a girl is not 100% interested in a man it's quite possible for the man to loose his entire lively hood I will admit this is a pretty male centric take but like I said i haven't been paying much attention to dating world and i only have the perspective of a man
You missed my point. I'm saying that if you're not specifically in a poly relationship, then non exclusivity is an immediate and automatic relationship contract breach in 99+% of cases. So yes, the cheater isn't interested in Poly relationships in the vast majority of cases, but I was only bringing poly relationships up because they are a notable exception to non exclusivity being an immediate deal breaker